{"id":2545,"date":"2022-02-14T21:59:45","date_gmt":"2022-02-14T21:59:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/?p=2545"},"modified":"2022-02-25T20:18:25","modified_gmt":"2022-02-25T20:18:25","slug":"keeping-it-fresh-sex-in-a-long-term-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/?p=2545","title":{"rendered":"Keeping it Fresh: Sex in a Long-Term Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 fusion-flex-container nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0);background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px;border-color:var(--awb-color3);border-style:solid;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row fusion-flex-align-items-flex-start\" style=\"max-width:1331.2px;margin-left: calc(-4% \/ 2 );margin-right: calc(-4% \/ 2 );\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\" style=\"background-position:left top;background-repeat:no-repeat;-webkit-background-size:cover;-moz-background-size:cover;-o-background-size:cover;background-size:cover;padding: 0px 0px 0px 0px;\"><div ><span class=\" fusion-imageframe imageframe-none imageframe-1 hover-type-none\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1710\" title=\"Lovers Feet Of A Couple In Love In A Bed With White Linens\" src=\"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Lovers-Feet-Of-A-Couple-In-Lov-428293064-1-scaled.jpg\" data-orig-src=\"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Lovers-Feet-Of-A-Couple-In-Lov-428293064-1-scaled.jpg\" alt class=\"lazyload img-responsive wp-image-2547\" srcset=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns%3D%27http%3A%2F%2Fwww.w3.org%2F2000%2Fsvg%27%20width%3D%272560%27%20height%3D%271710%27%20viewBox%3D%270%200%202560%201710%27%3E%3Crect%20width%3D%272560%27%20height%3D%271710%27%20fill-opacity%3D%220%22%2F%3E%3C%2Fsvg%3E\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Lovers-Feet-Of-A-Couple-In-Lov-428293064-1-200x134.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Lovers-Feet-Of-A-Couple-In-Lov-428293064-1-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Lovers-Feet-Of-A-Couple-In-Lov-428293064-1-600x401.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Lovers-Feet-Of-A-Couple-In-Lov-428293064-1-800x534.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Lovers-Feet-Of-A-Couple-In-Lov-428293064-1-1200x802.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Lovers-Feet-Of-A-Couple-In-Lov-428293064-1-scaled.jpg 2560w\" data-sizes=\"auto\" data-orig-sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 2560px\" \/><\/span><\/div><\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-0{width:100% !important;margin-top : 20px;margin-bottom : 20px;}.fusion-builder-column-0 > .fusion-column-wrapper {padding-top : 0px !important;padding-right : 0px !important;margin-right : 1.92%;padding-bottom : 0px !important;padding-left : 0px !important;margin-left : 1.92%;}@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-0{width:100% !important;order : 0;}.fusion-builder-column-0 > .fusion-column-wrapper {margin-right : 1.92%;margin-left : 1.92%;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-0{width:100% !important;order : 0;}.fusion-builder-column-0 > .fusion-column-wrapper {margin-right : 1.92%;margin-left : 1.92%;}}<\/style><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\" style=\"background-position:left top;background-repeat:no-repeat;-webkit-background-size:cover;-moz-background-size:cover;-o-background-size:cover;background-size:cover;padding: 0px 0px 0px 0px;\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>So, you\u2019ve been together for a while now. You\u2019re committed; perhaps living together or married. You\u2019ve gone through that Honeymoon stage where you couldn\u2019t keep your hands off one another, but now it\u2019s sex once or twice a week \u2013 or once or twice a month. Things like work, money, children, mortgage payments, and getting enough sleep have taken priority over being intimate, but you\u2019d like to do it more. Here are a few tips for giving your sex life boost when things may have gone a little flat.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-1{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-1{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-1 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">Don\u2019t Worry<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-2\"><p>First and foremost, don\u2019t worry too much about your sex life changing, it\u2019s normal. Our libido naturally ebbs and flows throughout our lives. Compound that with the added stresses of just living during a pandemic and it\u2019s no wonder that sex falls lower on the priority list. Just relax and enjoy the excitement and anticipation of trying something different.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-2{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-2{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-2 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">Intimate Touch<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-3\"><p>Being \u201cintimate\u201d doesn\u2019t always mean \u201cintercourse.\u201d Studies suggest that non-sexual touch is as important to intimacy as sex. Try increasing your day-to-day touching beyond the usual hugs and kisses. Caress your partner while cuddling on the couch while watching a movie. Focus on the non-erogenous zones first and then brushing close to, but not touching them. Chances are this can lead to some heavy petting before the end of the show.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-3{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-3{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-3 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">It Doesn\u2019t Matter Who Initiates<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-4\"><p>Couples often fall into a routine about who initiates sex. If you are not the one who generally initiates, you may have to step out of your comfort zone and make the first move. Knowing that you are turned on can be a turn on to your partner. Everyone wants to be desired and, more likely or not, they will think it\u2019s hot.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-4{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-4{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-4 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">Put it on the Calendar<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-5\"><p>That may seem like the <em>least<\/em>-sexy piece of advice ever, but it works by reminding both of you to make sex a priority. You can add it to their phone calendar or day planner, of course, but you can also make it an opportunity to get creative, like writing a seductive note describing exactly what you are going to do to them tonight, or text a sexy video telling them yourself, or maybe sending a picture of what you will be wearing (or not wearing) when they get home. Planning it makes it a priority and a creative reminder can build anticipation and get you both in a sexy mood.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-5{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-5{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-5 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">Sexting<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-6\"><p>Speaking of creativity, have you ever sexted? You probably text each other throughout the day about mundane stuff like what\u2019s for dinner or the toilet running, so why not spice it up a bit. It\u2019s a great way to build anticipation as well as break up the routine of the day. If dirty talk is out of your comfort zone, start something playful like, \u201cI just stepped out of the shower\u2026 \ud83d\ude09\u201d or suggestive like, \u201cI can\u2019t wait for you to come\u2026 home\u201d and then let your imagination take it from there. Once you are more comfortable and confident, move on to kinkier subjects like, \u201cI just had the hottest fantasy. Want to hear it?\u201d or \u201cI just got a new bra, wanna see?\u201d Have fun flirting, teasing, playing, and getting so worked up you can\u2019t wait for the other to come\u2026 home.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-6{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-6{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-6 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">From Sexting to Talking<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-7\"><p>Now that you\u2019ve mastered sexting, it\u2019s time to move on to communicating your sexual feeling and fantasies. A common complaint in marriages and long-term relationships is that the couples sometimes feel \u201cdisconnected\u201d from one another. Regarding sex, needs and desires evolve over time and may not be the same as they were when you first started dating. Take time occasionally to talk about it, maybe as \u201cpillow talk\u201d after sex. This is the moment to say, \u201cI liked it when you [did this to me]\u201d or \u201cYou said you wanted to boss me around while sexting the other day. I\u2019d like that, too,\u201d or ask, \u201cIf you could do anything you want to me, what would it be?\u201d Talking about your wants and desires is an excellent way to reconnect and bring you closer not only in bed, but in your relationship as a whole.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-7{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-7{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-7 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">Final Thoughts<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-8\"><p>Being in a long-term relationship does not mean the end of sex, even though, at times, it may feel like it. But let\u2019s face it, with life being as busy and stressful as it is, most of us aren\u2019t in the mood for sex until we are. And that\u2019s ok. Just as our relationships grow and evolve with time, so do our sex lives. Hopefully, some of the tips here will give you the boost you need to get back on track.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-1{width:100% !important;margin-top : 20px;margin-bottom : 20px;}.fusion-builder-column-1 > .fusion-column-wrapper {padding-top : 0px !important;padding-right : 0px !important;margin-right : 1.92%;padding-bottom : 0px !important;padding-left : 0px !important;margin-left : 1.92%;}@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-1{width:100% !important;order : 0;}.fusion-builder-column-1 > .fusion-column-wrapper {margin-right : 1.92%;margin-left : 1.92%;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-1{width:100% !important;order : 0;}.fusion-builder-column-1 > .fusion-column-wrapper {margin-right : 1.92%;margin-left : 1.92%;}}<\/style><\/div><\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">.fusion-body .fusion-flex-container.fusion-builder-row-1{ padding-top : 0px;margin-top : 0px;padding-right : 0px;padding-bottom : 0px;margin-bottom : 0px;padding-left : 0px;}<\/style><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2546,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[60,59,61],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2545","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love","category-relationships","category-sex"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2545","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2545"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2545\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2548,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2545\/revisions\/2548"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2546"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2545"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2545"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2545"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}