{"id":2542,"date":"2022-01-28T21:52:32","date_gmt":"2022-01-28T21:52:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/?p=2542"},"modified":"2022-02-25T20:19:02","modified_gmt":"2022-02-25T20:19:02","slug":"finding-love-5-steps-to-building-a-strong-foundation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/?p=2542","title":{"rendered":"Finding Love: 5 Steps to Building a Strong Foundation"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 fusion-flex-container nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0);background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 0px;border-color:var(--awb-color3);border-style:solid;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row fusion-flex-align-items-flex-start\" style=\"max-width:1331.2px;margin-left: calc(-4% \/ 2 );margin-right: calc(-4% \/ 2 );\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\" style=\"background-position:left top;background-repeat:no-repeat;-webkit-background-size:cover;-moz-background-size:cover;-o-background-size:cover;background-size:cover;padding: 0px 0px 0px 0px;\"><div ><span class=\" fusion-imageframe imageframe-none imageframe-1 hover-type-none\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1707\" title=\"Mixed Race Smiling Couple Enjoying On Vacation, Tourist Having F\" src=\"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Mixed-Race-Smiling-Couple-Enjo-432738038-scaled.jpg\" data-orig-src=\"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Mixed-Race-Smiling-Couple-Enjo-432738038-scaled.jpg\" alt class=\"lazyload img-responsive wp-image-2543\" srcset=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns%3D%27http%3A%2F%2Fwww.w3.org%2F2000%2Fsvg%27%20width%3D%272560%27%20height%3D%271707%27%20viewBox%3D%270%200%202560%201707%27%3E%3Crect%20width%3D%272560%27%20height%3D%271707%27%20fill-opacity%3D%220%22%2F%3E%3C%2Fsvg%3E\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Mixed-Race-Smiling-Couple-Enjo-432738038-200x133.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Mixed-Race-Smiling-Couple-Enjo-432738038-400x267.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Mixed-Race-Smiling-Couple-Enjo-432738038-600x400.jpg 600w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Mixed-Race-Smiling-Couple-Enjo-432738038-800x533.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Mixed-Race-Smiling-Couple-Enjo-432738038-1200x800.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/bigstock-Mixed-Race-Smiling-Couple-Enjo-432738038-scaled.jpg 2560w\" data-sizes=\"auto\" data-orig-sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 2560px\" \/><\/span><\/div><\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-0{width:100% !important;margin-top : 20px;margin-bottom : 20px;}.fusion-builder-column-0 > .fusion-column-wrapper {padding-top : 0px !important;padding-right : 0px !important;margin-right : 1.92%;padding-bottom : 0px !important;padding-left : 0px !important;margin-left : 1.92%;}@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-0{width:100% !important;order : 0;}.fusion-builder-column-0 > .fusion-column-wrapper {margin-right : 1.92%;margin-left : 1.92%;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-0{width:100% !important;order : 0;}.fusion-builder-column-0 > .fusion-column-wrapper {margin-right : 1.92%;margin-left : 1.92%;}}<\/style><\/div><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\" style=\"background-position:left top;background-repeat:no-repeat;-webkit-background-size:cover;-moz-background-size:cover;-o-background-size:cover;background-size:cover;padding: 0px 0px 0px 0px;\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\"><p>Finding, keeping, and growing love must be built upon a sturdy foundation and it takes effort from both partners for it to last. No matter your relationship status \u2013 Single, Dating, Committed Relationship, or Married \u2013 basic building blocks are needed for it to succeed.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-1{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-1{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-1 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">1. Shared Core Values<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-2\"><p>You likely have started relationships because you shared similar interests with someone \u2013 things like work, education, or the same hobbies \u2013 and that\u2019s a good start. For love to last, however, it takes more than just having things in common, you must share Core Values, especially before stepping into marriage. Minor differences and induvial interests take a little accommodation, but differences on things like religion, family, children, philanthropy, and politics are hard to overcome. If partners do not share Core Values, the relationship is unlikely to work.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-2{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-2{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-2 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">2. Show Your Appreciation Daily<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-3\"><p>Small expressions of appreciations can make an enormous difference in a relationship. Everyone wants and needs to be recognized and appreciated for who they are and what they do, so say or do something every day that does that. Giving a hug and kiss when he seems stressed, preparing a favorite meal, holding hands, buying flowers, or fixing her coffee just the way she likes it shows that you are paying attention. And saying things like: \u201cI love you,\u201d \u201cYou look great today,\u201d \u201cYou are wonderful,\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re a terrific dad\u201d daily leads to a happier relationship.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-3{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-3{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-3 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">3. Intimacy vs. Sex<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-4\"><p>In a healthy relationship, sex isn\u2019t just about \u201cThe Big O,\u201d it\u2019s about intimacy and emotional bonding. Sure, there are times when blowing off stress and tension is needed, and that is fine, but over the long haul, physical touch is more about an emotional connection than about just feeling good.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-4{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-4{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-4 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">4. Conflict Resolution<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-5\"><p>There is an adage among relationship experts that states, \u201cIt\u2019s not about <strong><em>if<\/em><\/strong> you fight, it\u2019s <strong><em>how<\/em><\/strong> you fight.\u201d This means that in long-term relationships disagreements are normal and healthy when resolved with love and respect. In fact, resolving conflict in this way makes your relationship stronger and deeper. \u201cFighting dirty,\u201d however, by using guilt, contempt, condescension, defensiveness, or withdrawing from conflict altogether are unhealthy ways to resolve problems and is a sign of emotional immaturity.<\/p>\n<\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-5{margin-top:30px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:20px!important;margin-left:!important;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-title.fusion-title-5{margin-top:20px!important; margin-right:!important;margin-bottom:10px!important; margin-left:!important;}}<\/style><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-5 fusion-sep-none fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"margin-top:30px;margin-bottom:20px;\"><h2 class=\"title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:60;line-height:1.18;\">5. Don\u2019t Lose Your \u201cSelf\u201d<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-6\"><p>One of the most common causes of relationship problems is that one partner loses their sense of identity or their \u201cSelf\u201d \u2013 meaning, they depend so much on the other partners\u2019 love and attention that they give up their interests and Core Values (see #1 above). In the psychology world, it\u2019s known as \u201cself-abandonment.\u201d Your relationship is not your identity, and your partner should not define you. You need to love yourself first before you can grow a long-term, loving relationship with someone else.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-7\"><p>A solid foundation is the key to a successful, long-term, loving relationship. Is it as simple as following the five steps above? Of course not. Love takes work and, at times, it will be difficult. But starting off on solid footing will better your chances of finding, keeping, and growing love.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-1{width:100% !important;margin-top : 20px;margin-bottom : 20px;}.fusion-builder-column-1 > .fusion-column-wrapper {padding-top : 0px !important;padding-right : 0px !important;margin-right : 1.92%;padding-bottom : 0px !important;padding-left : 0px !important;margin-left : 1.92%;}@media only screen and (max-width:1024px) {.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-1{width:100% !important;order : 0;}.fusion-builder-column-1 > .fusion-column-wrapper {margin-right : 1.92%;margin-left : 1.92%;}}@media only screen and (max-width:640px) {.fusion-body .fusion-builder-column-1{width:100% !important;order : 0;}.fusion-builder-column-1 > .fusion-column-wrapper {margin-right : 1.92%;margin-left : 1.92%;}}<\/style><\/div><\/div><style type=\"text\/css\">.fusion-body .fusion-flex-container.fusion-builder-row-1{ padding-top : 0px;margin-top : 0px;padding-right : 0px;padding-bottom : 0px;margin-bottom : 0px;padding-left : 0px;}<\/style><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2543,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[60,59],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2542","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2542","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2542"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2542\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2544,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2542\/revisions\/2544"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2543"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2542"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2542"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luvguidance.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2542"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}